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Okay so ive known this guy for 4 years, we always kept in touch, talking on & off and I never really took the time to see that maybe he could be a great guy for me? He was always there to think of it, Always sweet to me, hung out a few times, I think there was something always a little there for him. When my mother passed away always texting me talking & wanting to hangout. He recently asked me to go to a giants game with him after christmas (corner end zone seats) & said to me "my christmas gift to you".. he payed for everything, lunch gas, parking, i felt bad but he treated me like a lady and that's what im lookig for. I tried to forget about him a couple of times b/c im just confused with everything but than i feel like he comes back. Where always flirting. He goes to Ramapo college, and always says to me if the weather is ever bad i can always come to his place b/c my technical school is close to his. He actually asks me to text him too sometimes when where on the computer talking for the morning when he wakes up & vice versa he has text me at 5 in the morning when he gets up for work.....Does this sound like it could be more than friends? I guess where both stubburn to b/c he when i do text him he'll say things like "well if it isnt my fav person" or "heyy wow you text me" haha... I just dont want to get hurt....he is a good guy, hes a hard worker and has very good manners.
40 month(s) ago
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You are STILL confused, because when it's a guy that you know is right for you there will be no asking complete strangers for the answer. You know, he's been pretty persistent. The real question is, if you date him what do YOU want from a relationship? You like the way he treats you when you go out, but are you ready to know him closer? He doesn't seem to be the type you can just casually date. If this is something you want to know the answer to, ask him directly. I wish you luck in your personal relationships.
40 month(s) ago
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Dear Cindy Ask yourself this before you commit to a comedy of errors. Do we have things in common that are important enough to sustain an onging relationship. (after all sex is for marriage in reality) Do I really care about him? Do I think about him all the time? If something tragic happened to him would I be there for him and able to help him? When I am with him do I feel like a real companion with him? What is it I like about him or dislike about him? Does he have some of the same values I have? (such as Christianity, ecology, humor, good deeds, outdoor activities, indoor activities, children, philosophy) After you have considered the important things you will know better if you really want to persue a relationship with him. It sounds to me like you have not been head over heals about him and have considered him someone who is more of a friend than someone you would considering a loving companion for life. If you really are always flirting then why has your relationship not moved further? It seems like he cares more for you than you care for him. If his mother died would you help him with his grief as he did for you? Also be certain you are not just falling for his "charms". Some of the most charming guys end up being very abusive men in relationships. Does he have a sister? it would be good to talk to her about him. If he treats her well and his mother well then he may be an ok guy for a loving relationship. If you do decide to persue a relationsip with him it is smart to keep sex out of the picture until you are certain about him and yourself. Grief can muddle things up so really put a lot of consideration into this. Sorry your mom died. Mine did too and so did my Aunt who was my best friend for many years. I still have my daughter but that is a different type of relationship. When you miss your mom you don't have her to bounce back wisdom to you so you feel like you are floundering. God bless you Cindy. GeniusWannabe A mom too.
40 month(s) ago
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i don't know where the problem is. nothing to figure out.
31 month(s) ago
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Just see yourself that what are you expecting out of him. Is that more than friendship. Meanwhile your also confused because mostly girls do get confuse when there is a guy thing involved. Try to be as specific in your thoughts and see his treatment to you. If its love than just have a talk about it to him before it gets too late or too long.
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